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Marriage counselling is a process of giving advice, assistance, guidance, help, etc. (especially by a qualified person) to the marital partners in an effort to recognize and to better manage or reconcile troublesome differences and repeating patterns of distress. Marriage counselling involves recommending a course of action to solve personal difficulties, and gives individuals the chance to talk about their issues in a comfortable and confidential manner. This process may need anywhere between 1 to 3 sessions.

However, for a much better and long-term result, what is required is “individual relationship therapy” as I call it. Therapy basically means treatment, but here it means more of healing and training the individuals to improve and maintain their relationships. This process may need anywhere between 12 to 24 sessions. Individual relationship therapy is more about seemingly intractable problems with a relationship history, where emotions are the target and the agent of change. It has lot to do with the past, even the early childhood.

No matter how bad is the marriage or how long the marriage has been bad; it can be mended or repaired if both the partners want to make it work and are willing to change themselves.

In majority of the cases, when a person or a couple resorts to a marriage counsellor, the things are quite bad. Each one of the partners or at least one of them is highly frustrated in the relationship, and feels that nothing much can be done.

In these kinds of cases, it has been observed that one of the partners will not be really interested to cooperate. This is basically due to the ego problem and holding on to the past.

In such cases, if the other partner is willing to work on himself/herself with the help of the marriage counsellor, even then there can be a good improvement in their marital relationship. However, this may require a lot of hard and sincere work.

Most relationship problems are due to excessive negative emotions like fear, worry, doubts, jealousy, insecurity, guilt, grievance, grudge, anger, hatred, violence, vengeance, etc. When negative emotions become excessive, they become harmful for the relationships as well as for the mental and physical health.

Actually speaking, most marital discords are mainly due to lack of love and respect for each other; and also because of lack of confidence and trust in each other.

Through my counselling and individual relationship therapy, I provide solutions or at least answers to problems in relationship, love-life, marriage, sex-life, etc.

For these, the marital partners need to have sessions with me, either at my clinic or online.

Why marriage counselling is needed?

The biggest mistake people make is that they discuss their marital problems or difficulties with their relatives, neighbours and friends. By discussing and dwelling upon the shortcomings of the spouse, one is actually focusing on problems and creating those states within oneself. As one believes, thinks and speaks about one’s marriage, so will be one’s experiences.

But one may say, "My spouse is the real problem, and I don't know what to do, as I have tried many things." In this case, one needs to take a professional help from a qualified marriage counsellor.

Relatives, neighbours and friends will usually give incorrect advices, as they are not trained in human psychology and the laws of successful relationship. It is usually biased and prejudiced because it is not given in an impersonal way. Any advice one receives, which violates the laws of successful relationship is not good or sound.